Let me tell you about my journey.....
My name is Shelley and I married my husband Rick in 2008. He was the love of my life. We met in July 2007. We dated for a year and a half. Then he asked me to marry him on the phone while I was in Idaho visiting my sister. We were engaged 3 months and were married in Nov. 2008.
We made a wonderful life together. Thought Children were in our future but soon realized that they were not possible.
So 4 months after we were married Rick was let go from a job that he had for 15 yrs and we went down to one income. Soon after he applied to Truck Driving school to provide for his family. When he finished he was at Werner for a few short weeks and found out that he didnt want to be there. So he went to different places.
He ended up a couple years ago being employed with a company that was amazing.
June of 2018 started a long journey....
Rick was having a hard time emptying his bladder and he was off work for vacation and he was having trouble sleeping due to having to get up constantly to go to the bathroom. Finally he was in so much pain from pushing on his bladder that I told him to go to the ER and I would meet him there. They told me that he had 2750ccs of Urine backed up in his bladder. He then had to have a catheter.
So July 2018....
We went to the urologist several times and two of those times they would remove his catheter and see if he could pee on his own. Which he couldn't so they put a catheter back in.
He was then scanned to see what was going on and come to find out he had an enlarged prostate and we scheduled Surgery for August 29, 2018.
In the meantime Rick had to be put on Leave from work because of the catheter.
August 12, 2018...
This was a day I will never forget. I slept on the couch so that I wouldnt distrupt the catheter for Rick and I woke up that Sunday morning. Prepared Brunch for him and took it in to him at 12pm. He hadnt woke up yet. He proceeded to tell me that he didnt fall asleep till 6am so when I woke him at 12p, he ate, showered and got dressed. He was so excited to build his box fan. He went outside and started building and I stayed inside and did laundry. around 3ish I went outside and checked on him and he was sitting in a lawn chair drinking a pepsi. I gave him a water and asked him to stay hydrated. I said if he needed anything to let me know. 15 minutes later I am sitting in my room doing laundry and my neighbor comes running into the house saying that Rick had stopped breathing. My heart stopped. I couldnt imagine my life without him. I then went outside while her husband was doing CPR on Rick and they had called the ambulance. They worked on him for about an hour and a half before taking him to St. James ER in pontiac.
I was in no condition to drive so they drove me. As soon as I got there I followed the paramedics in check on Rick and immediately went to waiting room to find Matt (His Son). All of our friends were in the waiting room. I called his brother and told them to come up.
Matt and I walked back to his room and waited about ten minutes and finally told the drs and nurses to let him go. We could tell he was gone. We didnt want to give up but I knew Rick would not want to live like this. So at 5:34pm he was pronounced Dead.
My life has been hell since. I have amazing friends and family who have been by my side through out this journey. I will write more later but wanted to start this so I can write my feelings down through all of this.
Thanks for listening,
Shelley
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